tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-58358842012-02-13T13:09:47.925-08:00Here, Allison will post articles and quotes, along with observations from her work with couples, individuals and young adults. Articles are for entertainment/informational purposes only, should never be used as a substitute for medical/legal/psychiatric consultation and do not necessarily represent Allison's opinions or philosophies.Allison Cohen, M.A., MFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00929275828285220990noreply@blogger.comBlogger1371100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5835884.post-1271225820852567582012-02-13T12:59:00.000-08:002012-02-13T13:09:47.937-08:00

Why is it so hard to be happy?  Because we fear it going away.  We worry, stress and borrow tomorrow's troubles and rob ourselves of the true joy in the moment. Live mindfully, make the most of your happiness now and face tomorrow...tomorrow.

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Feedback for those asking the question, "Should I stay friends with my ex?" http://www.yourtango.com/experts/allison-cohen-m-a-mft/why-holding-your-ex-means-holding-your-life-expert

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Apparently the answer is "Love and $75,000."  Surprised?  Read on for more... http://gmj.gallup.com/content/150671/Happiness-Is-Love-and-75K.aspx?utm_source=email&utm_medium=122011&utm_content=morelink&utm_campaign=newsletter#1

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A quick and easy tool, to get you back on track: http://www.task.fm/existential-crisis

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 Hold onto Martin Luther King, Jr.'s words:  "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear."

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 Know that taking the first step is always hardest. But you'll never regret taking it.

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A vital read for any parent or any person that realizes the world is changing and that being open to it, may just save your kids lives. http://togetherforjacksoncountykids.tumblr.com/post/14314184651/one-teachers-approach-to-preventing-gender-bullying-in

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Would it surprise you to know that women sometimes want sex more than men?! In a 20 year, informal poll, it was revealed that one third of the time, women want just that. Read on for some interesting information and reasoning.   http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201112/when-she-wants-sex-more-he-does

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Ever wondered if you could benefit from psychotherapy but weren't sure how to know for certain? Take the test and find out!  http://www.lifeissuespsychotherapy.com/do-i-need-psychotherapy/

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Raising children is the hardest job in the world. Passing on your wisdom and life experiences are just a couple of the daunting tasks along the way.  Here's an idea on how to get you started... http://www.yourtango.com/experts/allison-cohen-m-a-mft/emails-my-kids

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Shocking statistics on affairs and interesting ideas for how to prevent them. Take everything with a grain of salt and use the information to start an important conversation with your partner! http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tammy-nelson-phd/post_2646_b_1089283.html?ncid=edlinkusaolp00000009

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PBS and YourTango have partnered to create an educational series of articles on the topic of depression for both PBS's site, 'This Emotional Life' and YourTango's site and asked me to contribute. To read my piece and learn about how to better handle your loved one's struggles, click the link below. http://www.pbs.org/thisemotionallife/blogs/depression-family-affair

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A fantastic and thought provoking list.  You can't help but re-evaluate after reading... http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/08/22/50-ways-to-waste-a-life/

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Are you on an emotional roller coaster, wondering how to get your relationship back on track?  Read the article below for some grounding tools and new perspectives: http://www.yourtango.com/experts/allison-cohen-m-a-mft/what-demi-should-know-if-ashton-rumors-are-true

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I had the pleasure of contributing tips 12 & 13 for this article. Check it out for some great suggestions.   http://www.ivillage.com/30-days-30-ways-build-better-self-confidence/4-b-382678#382689

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Often, men are left feeling confused as to what women really want. View the article below to learn more about why and what you can do to bridge those gaps.  http://www.yourtango.com/experts/allison-cohen-m-a-mft/men-and-raw-deal-theyre-getting

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More specific information on what to consider if you're thinking about separation as a viable option to save your relationship. http://www.yourtango.com/experts/allison-cohen-m-a-mft/separation-save-marriage

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I was honored to make my second appearance on the TODAY show this morning, discussing how separation can actually mend a marriage. For a heart warming story and to watch the video, click the link below: http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/44326347/ns/today-relationships/t/can-taking-time-out-save-troubled-relationship/

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Want to learn about how social media is impeding our connections AND hear what it's like for a  father to interview his daughter? Check out both audio segments below:  http://filesource.abacast.com/wsradio/computerandtechnologyradio/082011/segment1082011.mp3 http://filesource.abacast.com/wsradio/computerandtechnologyradio/082011/segment2082011.mp3

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Recently, I was asked to join the ranks of the YourTango.com Experts family and start contributing articles relevant to mental health and relationships.  I'm pleased to announce that I've written my first article on the negative impact that technology can play on our relationships. You can check it out here: http://www.yourtango.com/experts/allison-cohen-m-a-mft/

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For those always searching for the next best thing, take a look at the article below and be prepared for a shift in perspective.  If you're convinced that routine equals death, you're missing out on the joy of comfort sex! http://thechart.blogs.cnn.com/2011/06/30/the-joy-of-comfort-sex/?hpt=hp_p1&iref=NS1

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I had the privilege of being interviewed by Cosmopolitan magazine for this article. It's in the August 2011 issue, on stands now.  Pick up the magazine or take a look at the image of the article below.      

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Ever seen children whose parents try so hard to make them happy that the kids become incapable of tolerating difficulty?  On occasion, do you think about the possibility that you may be attempting to mold your child in your own image as opposed to supporting the creation of theirs?  In reality, by shielding our kids from disappointment or by forcing their personalities to reflect who WE are as

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While few are open enough to talk about it, many couples struggle with sexual issues. What so many fail to realize is that some of these struggles may be a function of depressive symptoms or side effects of anti-depressants. What to do if you fall into this category? Read the article below for some useful tools and tricks! http://www.everydayhealth.com/depression-pictures/

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While I take issue with the author's tone and simplification of a complex issue, the point is well taken.  Start to adjust and re-frame your relationship with your parents and begin to change your world!  Click the link below for more information. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/laurie-gerber/teach-your-parents-well-b_b_844577.html

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For years, when my clients have expressed personal shame and disappointment, one of the first questions I've always asked is, "What would you tell your friend or family member if they were in the same situation?" Not surprisingly, they all report loving, supportive and understanding feelings. As it turns out, new research is encouraging the same technique for better health.  So what's the take

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While I'm loath to encourage anything that stereotypes, the article below provides some excellent examples of how and why SOME men have difficulty listening to women.  Read the items with a grain of salt and see if any of the reasons resonate with you (or someone you know). http://www.huffingtonpost.com/robert-leahy-phd/why-men-dont-listen-to-wo_b_808187.html

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Does the title seem counterintuitive?  More recently, observers and researchers are concluding that marital satisfaction is determined not by putting the relationship first, but instead by the level in which a partner expands and enriches our own experiences. Agree or disagree?  Read below for more information... http://www.nytimes.com/2011/01/02/weekinreview/02parkerpope.html?_r=2&src=me&ref=

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With the ever evolving landscape of love, many are left wondering, "Who and What is Marriage Good For?" Read below for some interesting facts and figures... http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,2031962-1,00.html

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Too often we pathologize behaviors that have a true diagnostic cause.  The article below discusses the pitfalls of doing just that, when it comes to personalizing your spouse's struggles with inattention.  Those seemingly selfish or unhelpful partners might just be struggling with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder... http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/07/19/

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The short answer is YES! Just another great reason to reframe the negative and focus on what works. Read the article below for more information... http://www.huffingtonpost.com/david-r-hamilton-phd/positive-people-live-long_b_774648.html

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With the state of the economy in such distress, many find themselves clinging to the jobs they have, simply for survival. This sense of 'must' and perpetual frustration can lead to depression. The article below delves into the subject and offers a few helpful nuggets to ponder. http://www.cnn.com/2010/HEALTH/10/01/health.job.making.depressed/index.html

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I was honored to be a part of the dialogue, as I appeared on NPR in San Diego, this morning. Interested in learning more? Listen to the audio here:http://www.kpbs.org/news/2010/jul/29/your-shared-bed-war-zone/

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This morning, I had the pleasure of appearing on the Today show, discussing the topic of partners sleeping in separate beds. For some couples, this is a wonderfully inspired opportunity to redefine the terms, based on what works for the uniqueness of their own relationship. Think about how much of your decision making comes from the fear of others perceptions, antiquated societal expectations and

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Recently, I was asked to comment on how women can maximize the personal time they have to increase their internal joy and deepen one-on-one relationships. Below you'll find a link to the article...http://www.webmd.com/balance/features/womans-guide-to-me-time

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Seven mistakes to look out for and seven solutions to combat them...http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8518897

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While the article is geared towards women, the point is well taken; we all have unconscious walls that were created by false beliefs, perceptions and experiences. Take a look at the article and then to those falsehoods which may just be blocking you from achieving your best self...http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/articleoprahmatch.aspx?cp-documentid=23163931

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Marriages are full of trials and tribulations. Most of us know this. Below you'll find eight things you may not know. Read through and discuss with your mate. You might just get a wonderfully productive dialogue out of it...http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/8-things-no-one-tells-you-marriage

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I often get asked about the hard and fast rules for how to manage friendship relationships, post break up. Sadly, there are no hard and fast rules because ultimately, you and your instincts know best. That being said, here are some useful general guidelines to ponder...http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/09/02/tf.rules.friends.with.ex/index.html

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Recently, many clients have reported feelings of depression, as they learn to adjust to the new challenges that the current economic landscape has created. The article below provides some excellent, natural treatment recommendations for mild depression. http://www.webmd.com/depression/recognizing-depression-symptoms/natural-treatments

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A recent study finds a strong correlation between smiling in old photographs and future marital success. Read on for the full story... http://news.yahoo.com/s/livescience/20090414/sc_livescience/smilespredictmarriagesuccess

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The link below sends you to an article I was asked to comment on regarding the seven biggest relationship issues and how to solve them. Some great tips are included...http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/7-relationship-problems-how-solve-them

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A new study finds that you get more for your money when you spend on experiences versus possessions. Read on to learn why...http://www.cnn.com/2009/HEALTH/02/10/happiness.possessions/index.html

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Some great, straightforward techniques to consider...http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/01/08/o.making.decisions.couple/index.html

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A terrific article for parents and relatives struggling to understand what is problematic versus what is age appropriate...http://www.cnn.com/2008/HEALTH/family/11/12/why.kids.lie/index.html

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There has been much controversy over the concept of cohabitation before marriage and whether or not this facilitates a happier relationship or increases the likelihood of divorce. Many critics report that cohabitating leads more to break-ups than partner satisfaction due to the lack of a true commitment to hold the couple together. Once thought to be detrimental, studies now show that

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1. Put Logic Aside – Your partners feelings matter.2. Peacekeeping Doesn’t Pay – “Anything you say dear” gives you peace in the short term but only prevents you from expressing your feelings and leads to a blow up in the long term.3.Get Rid of Distractions – Refusing to focus on issues or important conversations simply leads to lack of intimacy and more fights down the road.4. Quit Nagging – It

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The link below sends you to an article I was asked to comment on regarding potential issues that arise when you move in with a new love before the completion of divorce.http://www.divorce360.com/articles/761/shacking-up-before-divorce.aspx

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Mood swings, tantrums and conflicting needs can frustrate even the most patient parent. The article below discuses why our children react this way and better yet, how to manage it...http://www.cnn.com/2008/HEALTH/family/03/26/par.baffling.behavior/index.html

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Great, straightforward tips on how to manage these trying years...http://www.cnn.com/2008/HEALTH/family/01/22/par.preschoolers/index.html

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New research indicates that early interventions including limitations and boundaries decrease ADHD behaviors without the use of meds...http://24hnews.net/Health/ADHD-preschoolers-helped-by-structure--consistency.html

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A fascinating article that links preliminary research on the benefits of Omega-3 fatty acids with decreases in aggression, depression, ADHD and autism...http://www.odemagazine.com/doc/46/feed_your_brain

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An excerpt from a great book that validates the notion that you must know yourself before you can raise your children effectively. Using humor and rational thought, the following provides a jumping off point on a wonderous adventure called parenting...http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/20620441/

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While the study was inconclusive in some respects, it does highlight the importance of communication and the alleviation of stress. For the sake of your health...talk it out constructively. If you need to learn the tools to do so, there is help!http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20071008/ap_on_he_me/bad_marriage_heart

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An interesting take from a child therapist on the growing trend towards children's lack of respect for their parent's authority. While the article isn't comprehensive because it doesn't highlight the parental fear of being disliked, it does shed light on some of the causes of the phenomenon... http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/09/10/AR2007091001174.html

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Yet another reason to work on opening the lines of communication....http://www.reutershealth.com/archive/2007/08/20/eline/links/20070820elin001.html

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A new article discusses the downside of excessively venting your struggles...as a result, problems appear greater, less hopeful and minimize the focus on solutions. Remember, everything in moderation...http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/20185446/wid/11915773?GT1=10316

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A new study shows that while mothers may be polarized in their beliefs about staying home or returning to work, there is one area where both sides concur...Working full time is less appealing than it used to be. Read on for additional information...http://www.usatoday.com/news/nation/2007-07-12-mommy-wars_N.htm

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A new study confirms that partners believe that sharing housework is more important than having children together. Read on for further details...http://www.pantagraph.com/articles/2007/07/02/news/doc4689013c739b6918649609.txt

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Finally, empirical evidence that validates the fact that talking about your feelings helps!http://today.reuters.com/news/articlenews.aspx?type=scienceNews&storyid=2007-06-21T125859Z_01_N20280736_RTRUKOC_0_US-BRAIN-FEELINGS.xml

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A fascinating new study purports that woman are more or less attracted to men resembling their father based on the type of relationship they had growing up. Do you agree?http://news.yahoo.com/s/livescience/20070613/sc_livescience/womenprefermenwholooklikedad

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For all of the trials and tribulations of life, one of the biggest comes from the birth of your children. Life gets turned upside down and you have to learn to negotiate, re-negotiate and work with the new system at play. It can all be done with patience, knowledge, prioritizing and reorganization. Below, find an article that addresses the tip of the iceberg. Pick up the book or call to make an

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Parents will likely be less than thrilled with the article below but kids might be onto something...http://www.parentdish.com/2007/04/03/why-you-should-let-your-children-play-in-the-dirt/

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The author of the article below theorizes that the concept of "hooking up," particularly for females in college, can have damaging long term effects on esteem and romantic relationships. Take a look and make your own call...http://www.nytimes.com/2007/03/01/fashion/01hook.html

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There is much controversy when it comes to primary care givers working outside the home. Many feel that you can't have it all and that you are somehow neglecting your responsibilities by being selfish and seeking outside stimulation. While its a personal choice, the article below indicates that mothers returning to school is on the rise and can actually benefit both children and spouses because

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Great suggestions to take in while you're contemplating what you want this year to look like for yourself. When you're ready to make a move, check out this artice...http://lifestyle.msn.com/MindBodyandSoul/PersonalGrowth/ArticleMORE.aspx?cp-documentid=1761084&GT1=8989&wa=wsignin1.0

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A positive outlook can go a long way...http://www.thatsfit.com/2006/12/20/can-good-moods-prevent-colds

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A great video clip that describes the benefits of shared division of labor...http://coaches.aol.com/kids-and-family/joshua-coleman/chores-and-relationshipsRemember that perception is everything...it doesn't have to make sense to you for it to make sense for your partner!

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1. Manage Your Expectations2. Let the Little Things Slide3. Call A Truce by:- Calmly Discussing Your Grievance - Using an Intermediary if Necessary- Understand Where Your Anger is Coming to Avoid Over-Reacting- Be Direct About What is Upsetting You Instead of Acting in a Passive/Aggressive Manner4. Ask for Help (When it comes to preparing the meal, getting the house ready etc)5. Stick to a

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So often I see couples that have let their relationship fall by the wayside in favor of taking care of other priorities. There seems to be the sense that the relationship can take a backseat for a while until the children are raised, the mortgage is paid etc. All of those other things are priorities, however, keeping the partner relationship strong is equally if not MORE important. Here are some

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Because I believe in every humans ability to stand up for themselves, stand up for their beliefs and stand up for their rights..."I would rather die fighting on my feet than to live a lifetime on my knees" - Emiliano Zapata

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If you are one of the millions feeling lost and alone, there are other struggling with the same loss and there are ways to get help...http://www.webmd.com/content/article/124/115734.htm

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There are no blanket statements or absolutes. No one knows what's truly right for you like you do so listen to that inner voice, seek counsel and follow your path. The following article simply provides some things to consider...http://msnbc.msn.com/id/13924018/?GT1=8307

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Tips from Career Builder...http://www.thebyzantine.net/index.php?a=topic&t=704&p=2166

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http://ww5.lhj.com/lhj/story.jhtml;jsessionid=SFAR4HGMW22DNQFIBQSCCAQ?storyid=/templatedata/lhj/story/data/HealthNews_Forgiveness_05052003.xml&catref=lcat72

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The article below highlights research on a fascinating new procedure that may lift some symptoms of major depressive disorder when all other alternatives have been exhausted. As always, consult a medical doctor for evaluation of appropriateness and risks...http://health.msn.com/centers/depression/articlepage.aspx?cp-documentid=100134812

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"Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes." - Carl Jung

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Think you know what your spouse wants when it comes to money? Read on...http://money.cnn.com/2006/03/10/pf/marriagemain_moneymag_0604/index.htm

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Great tips from Parenting Magazine. Just remember, consistency is key!!!!Remove Them This is the gold standard of defiance busting. When your child reaches the limit, simply swoop in and physically leave the store, take her out of the sandbox, end the playdate, and head home. There must be no hesitation on your part. Don't cajole, beg, or convince. Your child's banking on an emotional reaction

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Like the article recommends, always speak to your physician to weigh the pros and cons for your particular situation...http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/11604780/from/RS.3/

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A humorous article written by Steve Friedman, author of "The Gentleman's Guide to Life" that provides a bit of insight into male/female differences and how to do something your partner will enjoy even if it makes no sense to you....Valentine's Day is approaching, and at no other time of the year are so many women consumed with so many frightening questions about the guy they're dating. Questions

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An interesting study reports that one-on-one and long-term therapy may help men open up...http://www.webmd.com/content/article/91/101139.htm

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With the new year on rapid approach, I thought it would be a great time to share some tips from Lana Holstein for improving your relationship...Seven Steps to a Better RelationshipSTEP 1: Create Your Love NestDoes your bedroom inspire a romantic liaison or housework? The place where you spend intimate time with your partner needs to be reserved for that, or at least a portion of it does.Set up a

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A great article that talks about the causes of tantrums and what parents can do to curb them. http://lifestyle.msn.com/FamilyandParenting/RaisingKids/ArticleBHG.aspx?cp-documentid=43776&GT1=7381

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Gottman notes that if you are stuck in gridlock (as referenced in Part 1), it means that you each have dreams that aren’t being addressed or respected by one another. By dreams, Gottman references hopes, aspirations and wishes within each of us on a gridlock issue. These dreams give us purpose, meaning and shape our identity. We must release and honor both partners dreams that are being ignored.

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Gottman notes that 31% of time conflicts are solvable. He notes that the solution is gentleness. Gottman further notes that happy couples present their issues in a softened way by accepting influence, working to repair the conversation and actively compromise. Conversely, unhappy couples start harshly, reject influence, reject all repair attempts and refuse to compromise. Gottman notes that

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Famed couples therapist John Gottman recently did a video presentation on conflict resolution and provided some excellent suggestions and fascinating statistics on struggles couples often experience. Gottman noted that surprisingly, 69% of conflicts never get resolved and that the secret to success when manuevering through fundamental personality differences is constant dialogue and acceptance of

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Interesting results gained from a research study in Britain...http://my.webmd.com/content/article/111/110181?src=RSS_PUBLIC

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The article linked below provides a useful springboard to start contemplating how to properly handle such complicated and confusing feelings...http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=4518&TrackingID=516311&BannerID=544657&menuid=6

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Couples divorcing have unique struggles and frustrations. When pairing this emotional upheaval with the daunting task of how to adequately transition the children through this new life stage, it is important to learn coping mechanisms that will decrease child anxiety and stress. The article below offers suggestions on how to achieve this...http://www.divorceandkids.com/Parent%20Tips/

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The answer found in the link below might surprise you...http://money.cnn.com/2005/07/01/commentary/everyday/sahadi/index.htm

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Here's an article that highlights some great tips and will give you a good place to start...http://family.msn.com/tool/article.aspx?dept=baby&sdept=bpc&name=me_090104_happychild&signup=true&offer=1&GT1=6657

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